Posts by The Berean

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My morbid fear of rejection ...

by The Berean in

it probably all began woth having no father or male influence during childhood to tell me how well i was doing.

as a youngster the most unpleasant task involved knocking as a jw on doors of people who didn't want you there and being told i was not welcome.. it went farther than that.

before conversion, mother had grown up as a salvation army disciplinarian and most everything i did was wrong or unhealthy according to her.

The Berean

Fadeout;

I get it. Sort of like getting back up on the horse! What an idea!(not)

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My morbid fear of rejection ...

by The Berean in

it probably all began woth having no father or male influence during childhood to tell me how well i was doing.

as a youngster the most unpleasant task involved knocking as a jw on doors of people who didn't want you there and being told i was not welcome.. it went farther than that.

before conversion, mother had grown up as a salvation army disciplinarian and most everything i did was wrong or unhealthy according to her.

It probably all began woth having no Father or male influence during childhood to tell me how well I was doing. As a youngster the most unpleasant task involved knocking as a JW on doors of people who didn't want you there and being told I was not welcome.

It went farther than that. Before conversion, Mother had grown up as a Salvation Army disciplinarian and most everything I did was wrong or unhealthy according to her. I grew to believe I was inferior. Although I had talent in music and journalism to pursue such would be rejected by Jehovah.

I grew tired of confrontation and correction and gave up on life in my early twenties. I rufused to compete for anything ... jobs, girls, or power. The fear of rejection was agreater risk than the possible reward of accomplishment. I continue to this day with low self esteem and the need to flee from confrontation. Even when others are actually trying to give aid, I interpret it as degrading counsel.Oh how I wish i could ignor my critics and mark them of as my equal rendering a simple point of view. But I am oversensetive. Is my phobia rare or do others have similar fears?

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I have an issue...

by IronHill in

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ok, here's my problem.... this weekend is my fiancee's district assembly, and she is attending.

i am suppoused to accompany her sat.

and sun.

The Berean

Keep in mind, please, that you marry a family as well as a person ...

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Do the JWs believe that there will be no accidents or mistakes in the new system?

by easyreader1970 in

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if you cut yourself, will it heal instantly or will it heal at a normal rate?

will it hurt?

what if you cut yourself too deeply and you begin to lose too much blood?.

The Berean

The only mistake will be if I am there! Heads will roll!

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what was the jw`s high water mark?

by warmasasunned in

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when were the jw`s at there peak.

i remember when i became a witness in 1986 there seemed to be almost an electricity in the air in my part of the world nottingham england (for all those outside the uk where robinhood legend comes from).. when we went on the ministry there would sometimes be as many as 60 people mainly in there early twenties, we couldnt fit in one room and had to stand outside sometimes, now when i see the jw`s out and about there maybe 4 or 5 in number mainly old people.. i remember those days, coming to the end of the cold war, berlin wall coming down, band aid (feet of clay prophecy) peace and sercurity etc etc, it seemed arrmageddon was just round the corner, of course the jw`s still had there sell by date then (1914 gen).

was that when the witnesses were at there strongest.

The Berean

I recall the year 1972 as being most exciting for the "faithful." The book "the Truth that Leads to Eternal Life" was curiously popular and easy to place in the publics hands. The Elder arrangement promised a bridge and structure leading to the new order. People in KHs acted as if they believed as opposed to going thru the motions. The retention rate of children was much higher due, in part , to the lack of information later available on the net. Believers visited each other for the "fun of it" and not for official business only. It was only after the WBTS created a false urgency concerning 1975 did publishers cease living as if there was a tomorrow in this "system of things." When tomorrow came the thrill retreated and many were financially strapped due to a lack of planning.

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Do You Think Most People Are Prejudiced ----Black, White, Red, etc.???

by minimus in

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after reading the terrific thread about the black harvard professor and the allegations being thrown around, i wonder if anyone might not show prejudice in one way or another.

i kind of think, anyone can be guilty of it.

i know some blacks that seriously look down upon other blacks simply because of a variation in color.

The Berean

Judging by where people choose to live and raise their families I must decidedly say yes ...

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Fake Knock and Other Sneaky Tactics During Field Service

by sacolton in

yeah, i hated "field circus".

i don't like bothering people on saturday mornings about the latest watchtower & awake magazines and try to convert them from their religon to become a jehovah's witness.

so, what i did was just wait until the group passes by and fake knocked.

The Berean

I knew a pioneer couple who "kept up appearances" for several years by meeting with the group and then always proceeding to the field only with each other. Even though they scarcely had jobs, they claimed to be supporting their marriage arrangement in a more important manner by spending sacred time with each other. Sometimes they would be seen shopping, at home, or visiting ... but the time kept on ticking while the congregation gave freely of their resources to these seemingly dedicated "preachers of the good news." Pretty clever scam ...

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